Potentially Unpopular Opinion

I’m seeing the Sarah Sanders kicked out of restaurant story all over. Before making a decision on it I tried to get the facts.

  1. The Sanders party was polite before and after being asked to leave.
  2. The owner was polite and private when doing the asking.
  3. The owner was attempting to protect employees whom she understood may feel discriminated against.
  4. The Sanders party is in league with someone who would actively discriminate against said employees.
  5. The Sanders party did not pose discriminatory actions while at the restaurant.
  6. Had a single employee not made the stupid move to post this on Facebook then both sides may have left it at that instead of the social media shit storm that followed.

I understand the thought process on the side of the restaurant. It is hard to provide service when you feel attacked. But the attack was not happening at that time. There are so many instances of people being kicked out of a restaurant because they are different. The difference does not make a person dangerous. These are not the same situation, but they are similar. Which makes this a tough call. I do not agree with someone being refused service because of their political affiliation any more than because of the color of their skin or the gender they love. However, I do not approve of someone being forced to serve a person who has outwardly defended a person that is attacking their rights. Again, a tough call.

In the restaurant owners shoes I think I would have gone a third route. Serve the party myself. When there is a difficult customer, or a customer that makes an employee feel uncomfortable I take over so my employee can remove themselves from the situation. I have done it many times. A customer can make an employee feel uncomfortable even when they are not actively doing something wrong at that time. I do not make my employees suffer that situation if I can step in and help. But I also don’t kick the customer out.

As a manager I feel the great responsibility of protecting my company, my customer, and my team. And sometimes that means making tough calls. There are times that I put my team first, but I do so in a way that makes it invisible to the customer as much as possible. And ideally without one of my employees posting my decisions to Social Media for all the world to see and judge.

They all said no

I had a shitty day, but for the first time in a long time our country did not. So I still can see hope glimmering in the future regardless of my inner turmoil in the present.

Today Senators John McCain, Lisa Murkowski, and Susan Collins said no. They will not let their party pass this joke of a “healthcare” bill.

Today the military said no. They will not go backwards in this countries fight for equality. They will let their strong American heroes continue to fight for this country regardless of gender.

Today the Boy Scouts of America said no. They were not supposed to let Trumps speech go on as it did, they should have stopped it.

Today this country said NO. No Mr. President you cannot bully us into submission. We will fight back. Our senators, military, and national groups are remembering their duty. They are realizing what it means to be loyal to the country, not the president. The citizens of this country have been fighting for this country, and those in a position to take a stand are finally waking up and hearing us. They are saying no, no president will bring this country down.

There is still a long way to go, but today was a large step in that resistance.

I asked earlier this week for those of the LGBTQ community to consider sharing their story here on the blog. I want to open that further. Anyone who wants to share their struggle, or fight, or success in regards to equality, let me know. Hit the contact section of the site and send me a message asking to write a guest post.

Quick look! Ooooooo Shiny!

My husband made a good point yesterday when he told me that we need simply to distract President Trump (oh that hurts to say) with shiny things in front of his face before he notices the real things he’s actually going to screw up. 

Think about it, the dude gets pissy at tweets, pictures, and tv shows. So let’s stop him from ruining our country by finding the little shiny tweets, pictures, and tv shows that keep his little mind busy.

Think we can keep him distracted for 4 years? I’m up for the challenge.

Step one, follow @halfonioninabag on twitter. Effing Brilliant!

Step two, tweet him pictures of shiny things like this…


And this…


And my personal favorite…


Don’t have Twitter? Join in by watching every show he hates to boost ratings! Come on y’all, we can do this.

Feel free to add your own shiny ideas! Tweet your shiny ideas out for the world to see! #distracttrump

Dear Trump, the presidency is not Reality TV

Dear President-Elect Donald Trump,

Your words have power. The things you say, the things you tweet, the things that pop out of your mouth with or without thought, they have tremendous power.

You spent many years in Reality TV where your words were used to boost ratings. Your attitude helped make money and provide entertainment. In that industry, drama sells, drama makes people watch, drama keeps ratings high and money coming in. I get that, but you are no longer the reality TV star that you were, you are the President-Elect, and your words hold a different kind of power.

I know people who voted for you only because you were the candidate against nuclear weapons. They were willing to look past your many flaws because they feared Clintons stand on nuclear weapons would lead us to war. A war they wanted to avoid. And they are severely disappointed in your recent message. Your words could lead us to a weapons race that leads us to global war.

During the election I feared that your words would increase prejudice. I believe that they did. After the vote I feared your words would lead to further hate crimes against people of color, or relegions that you speak against, or at least don’t speak for. I believe I was right. I continue to fear that your words could push us to a civil war, and with your latest tweets, I now fear global war.

I come from a mixed race family and fear for the safety of my husband and my children, because of your words. Regardless of what you meant, or what good you want to do for this country, your greatest power is in your words and you are using that power in a dangerous way.

Stop fighting the media and random TV shows that hurt your pride. Stop spreading drama as though it’s the best way to stay in the public eye. Stop spreading messages that can lead to further hate crimes. Start taking your job seriously. Start hiring advisors of all different points of view so you can make informed decisions. Start showing a passion for peace and acceptance.

Your words have power. Use that power for good. Before families like mine get attacked for no reason other than the color of their skin, or the religion they practice. I beg you.