I’m a data nerd. I research everything and love learning new facts about virtually anything I can. In fact a large portion of my job is data analysis. So when I was diagnosed with BPD the first thing I did was research, I wanted to gather as much data as I could so I could live a healthy life.
Upon starting my research my biggest concern was in how my disorder affected those around me, especially since I so consistently felt like I was detrimental to society. As I attempted to research I found website after website plus books, articles, and more on how to deal with someone who has BPD. Yet I couldn’t find any help on how to deal with your own BPD.
At that time I was already beginning to feel suicidal, needless to say it didn’t help to be told over and over again that people like me are simply a problem to be dealt with. It took me a long time and a lot of therapy to get past that and it still pops up in my head when my self esteem dips. So I want to share my tips for dealing with your own BPD. What has worked for me, what helps in my work and home life, what I force myself to do when my disorder tries to take control.
This will be a series of posts, so stay tuned. My hope is that this helps others who are trying to find their own support. And the first thing I want to say to all those seeking advice on dealing with their BPD is that you are not a problem, you are not detrimental, you are not a burden, and you are not alone. You can succeed in life no matter what your brain tells you, and you can have healthy relationships no matter what relationship issues you’ve had in the past. No matter how hard it is, you absolutely can have an amazing and healthy life, so never give up.